Shaneen Megji explains how narcissism develops and why it is so resistant to change. She presents narcissism as a deeply entrenched pattern formed through early trauma, reinforced by deception, and maintained through manipulation and control. Central to her explanation is the idea that narcissism does not merely function as bad behavior, but as a governing force over the individual’s inner life.
She correctly identifies that narcissism is not superficial. It is structural. It shapes identity, perception, and conscience. In the video, narcissism is described as something that takes hold early, grows stronger over time, and becomes increasingly immune to reason, accountability, and emotional appeal. In biblical terms, what she is describing aligns closely with spiritual bondage.
The video strongly implies, and at times directly states, that narcissism operates under the influence of a powerful spiritual force. In biblical language, this would be described as a demonic stronghold. Scripture repeatedly affirms that pride, deception, domination, and lack of empathy are not morally neutral traits, but the fruit of spiritual darkness.
Ephesians 6:12 tells us plainly that we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, and spiritual wickedness. Narcissism, when fully developed, reflects exactly this pattern. It is driven by pride, sustained by lies, and hostile to truth. It resists repentance because repentance threatens its throne.
Where the video is correct is in its warning. A narcissistic abuser cannot be reasoned into change. Tears, apologies, insight, or religious language are not evidence of repentance. Scripture itself warns that the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Discernment is necessary. Fruit must be tested over time.
However, where the modern framework falls short is in what it quietly removes from the conversation. Repentance is treated as improbable rather than commanded. Healing is treated as theoretical rather than demanded by God. Psychology becomes the final authority, rather than Scripture.
The Bible does not deny the power of demonic influence, but it also does not teach that such influence is permanent or unbeatable. Scripture teaches a way out, even for the proud, the abusive, and the deceived. That way out is repentance through the fear of God.
James 4:7 gives the formula clearly. Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. That verse is not written to victims. It is written to sinners. It assumes the presence of demonic pressure, and it also assumes the possibility of deliverance through submission and humility.
The Bible never diagnoses narcissism as a fixed identity. It diagnoses pride, rebellion, and self-exaltation as sin. And sin, even when demonically reinforced, is not cured by insight. It is broken by confession, repentance, and obedience.
Luke 3:8 commands fruit worthy of repentance. Not insight. Not awareness. Not therapy language. Fruit. Long-term, observable, costly change. Scripture allows no shortcuts.
This is where the Gospel must remain central. Christ did not come to manage broken personalities. He came to destroy the works of the devil. That includes the spirit of pride, domination, and self-worship that governs the narcissistic abuser.
It is true that many narcissists will never repent. Scripture acknowledges hard hearts. Scripture also acknowledges that some hearts are hardened because they refuse to repent, not because repentance is impossible.
The danger of a victim-only framework is that it quietly teaches permanence where Scripture teaches confrontation, discipline, and, where God grants it, transformation. The Bible commands forgiveness for the victim, but it commands repentance from the sinner. Both must be held together.
The correct biblical position is neither naive hope nor fatalistic despair. It is this. Without repentance, there is no healing. With repentance, even the strongest demonic stronghold can be broken.
Except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
That warning applies to everyone.
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